5 tips for living life to the fullest
Living life to the fullest is a beautiful philosophy of life. But in reality, it doesn't really happen that way.
In fact, our days look alike and are quite ordinary... So how do we get out of this everyday life that doesn't make our hearts beat with happiness?
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| 5 tips for living life to the fullest |
I suggest you follow these 5 tips to make every day count.
1. To make every day count, love
I believe that the most important thing in life, and especially at the end of our life, is to be able to be sure that we have loved and that we have been loved.
Love is a word as broad as it is deep. We can love a person and also love life.
Unfortunately, love is not always easy. This carries its share of risk. Because, yes, when we love, we run the risk of being disappointed and sad. In life everything ends, everything disappears: relationships, our environment, what we have built, our work, our children go to live their lives...
And I think too many of us focus on this part of the risk that we are going to suffer sooner or later. That is why we tend to close our hearts.
However, on the other hand, we do not talk about the risk of love. When we love, we run the risk of laughing and wondering. We run the risk of touching eternity.
To live life fully, it is essential to love.
So how to love? Above all, it requires focusing on what you have and not on what you would like to have.
I also invite you to accept your life as it is and to search every day for everything that is beautiful and good in your life. It will not happen in a day and you will also need to repeat this exercise for days and days so that love reigns in your daily life.
The best exercise to love is to keep a gratitude journal. Take 5 minutes each day to write down all the reasons why you are grateful to be alive today.
At first, it is not easy to see what makes us happy, simply because we tend to only see the negative.
So, first, find a time during the day: at night when you go to bed, in the morning when you wake up, at lunchtime, to write down at least 3 reasons why you are lucky to be alive today.
It can be a person, but also an event. Something you did, felt, or something that "bumped into" you by chance. It can be a reading, words you heard. That's all you want as long as it makes you happy.
Write down these 3 reasons and let yourself be invaded by gratitude. Enjoy this smile, shy at first, that will take shape on your face.
2. To make every day count, dare
I loved this quote from Benoit Henno: "Life is an experience."
Yes, life is an experience, but we have forgotten that. In fact, many of us are paralyzed by fear.
We are afraid of judgment, of the gaze of others. We are afraid of making decisions and being wrong or having to change our minds. In fact, we are afraid of having experiences because they are synonymous with change.
Change, however, is life. Everything changes. Let's look at the seasons, the child that grows, old age, the moon that continues to wax and wane in our sky... Everything changes, everything is cyclical.
So why not us? Why not our lives?
We don't like to be afraid and that's understandable. It is uncomfortable. In addition, we have invented a totally false concept and contrary to life itself: we can control everything.
I think a part of you knows. We don't control anything. We do not know what this Universe is, this Earth and even what we are doing there. It is the mystery of life. Let's accept it now.
Life is a magical experience!
To make each day count, we could live with this new idea that life is a miracle and that we are not here to do things "right", but to try experiences!
We are here to make mistakes, to fall and to get up again. We are here to learn, discover and be happy.
What would you do differently if you were no longer afraid to dare and experiment?
I invite you to ask yourself this question once a week. Yes, so that you verify that fear has not knocked on your door and that you do not let it settle comfortably in your home.
Being afraid of doing things is normal, but being afraid of living is not.
Fear is not an emotion that tries to freeze us, quite the contrary. In fact, it tells us what is important to us and sends us its energy to help us take the plunge. Yes, it sends us adrenaline that makes us think better and act better.
In other words, fear doesn't ask us to hide at home behind false regrets. It asks us to act and dare!
3. Simplify to live life to the fullest
We are losing time. Life is a miracle, but it is short-lived. However, we live as if we were immortal. We waste time on trivial things or making up a bunch of problems.
In addition, we often make it a matter of honor to complicate our lives, keeping mountains of obligations and things on our shoulders.
We carry too many things. First of all, too many material things. We want a (too) big house, but it requires higher credit, more time at work to pay for it, more time cleaning, and it doesn't always show, but it weighs on our shoulders.
We want a second car for the weekend, another item of clothing or another phone...
In addition, we load ourselves with too many problems: too many relationships, too many activities, too many desires, too many projects...
We are not machines to do, to obtain, to possess, we are human BEINGS.
Most of the things we run for imprison us because they take more work out of us and clutter our brains so that we no longer enjoy what we already have. We are like blind.
So today, we are running out of time! However, time is our only real wealth. Every day we all have 24 hours. It's a godsend.
To live life fully, it is urgent to review the way we "spend" our time.
I invite you to order your life regularly. Every week, ask yourself this question:
What do I remember from this week? What was important and less important?
Ask yourself what made you happy and what stressed you out. Think about how to do more of the things that make you happy and less of the rest.
These questions are going to be difficult at first. And that's normal. We don't always realize how we are "wasting" our time, and when the light is shining, it can be uncomfortable.
From my experience, what makes us happiest is when we spend time with the people we love. In other words, it is important to leave room for these moments and, above all, it is essential to order our relationships. Some do not feed us; worse yet, they stress us out.
The time you have each day is a gift, it is YOUR wealth. It is time that you respect this gift and use it for things that really make you happy.
Spend quality time with others and with yourself. Find the balance that works for you between your work, your relationships, and yourself. You will not find this balance in a day, but you will find it by observing how you "spend" your time week after week.
4. Love yourself
Every day we experience challenges. Often these challenges are relational. Others annoy us, disappoint us. Sometimes we are the ones who disappoint and make others angry.
So at the end of the day, we reflect on all these things. We don't always feel it, but it weighs on us, on our shoulders and on our hearts. Our thoughts swirl and repeat what happened.
In other words, we are also wasting our time and energy here. We end our day sad or angry and go to bed like this.
To live fully, it is important to make peace with others and also with ourselves. What happened today has already happened and it is the best thing that could happen to us. So, let's breathe and be at peace.
Others are as they are and have the right to think and act differently. Others do not exist to satisfy us. And it's true for us too. We may think and act differently from others. We are not here to please you, but to please ourselves.
I invite you to learn to love yourself. This means several things. First of all, to speak to you better. Become your best friend. What does it mean?
When you are sad, comfort yourself. When you are afraid, calm down. And when you do something wrong, tell yourself what a friend would tell you: you're a good person and you did the best you could. You see the difference?
When you love yourself, you will be able to accept disappointing others and allow others to disappoint you. In fact, you will no longer need to receive love from others. And, paradoxically, the less you need the love of others, the more others will love you.
Because? Because you will be yourself, you will be whole and complete and you will leave others free so that they can also be themselves. This freedom that you will give yourself and that you will grant to others will make you kind.
5. To make each day count, let your emotions run through you.
Perhaps reading this article, you find it very nice. Yes, it is "easy" when everything is going well, but when everything is going wrong, how do you do it?
When we experience a difficult event: a duel, a breakup, the loss of a job, a project that does not materialize... life goes on. Indeed, we continue to receive these 24 hours as a gift, this body to breathe, this air that keeps us alive... Yes, we continue to live, but nothing tastes the same anymore.
We feel anger, sadness, frustration... and that's normal.
To make each day count even when we are not happy, we need to experience that unhappiness. Yes, we need to live our emotions, all of them, fully.
Because sadness helps us perceive a lack and rebuild ourselves around it. Anger, on the other hand, reveals our need for security and respect and pushes us to seek to satisfy them in other ways.
However, it is not because we fully experience our misfortune, our despair, that we must stop living. Let's keep taking care of ourselves.
Also, it is not because we are unhappy here, now, that tomorrow we will not be a little better and so on.
Cry when you want to cry, scream when you need to scream, let your emotions run through you. Life and its trials pass through you. It just happens. Everything will happen. Everything disappears. And everything is reborn.
To live life fully, it is urgent to stop pretending to be happy.
When we are going through a difficult time, to be connected with life, with who we are, it is good to write.
Write about what you feel. Write about your anger and your pain. Ask the questions that burn your lips. Put words to injustices and things you don't understand.
When we write, we come face to face with ourselves. And we don't feel alone. Because when writing we have access to that voice that we all carry inside. A voice full of tenderness and wisdom. It only comes to us when we are alone with ourselves. In effect, it asks us to listen to each other and to listen to each other.
So that every day being closer to you and writing is the best way to achieve it.
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